And life ain’t no popularity contest.
Parents strive to find the balance between being a parent and a friend – sometimes the two don’t mix – ultimately you be the parent at the end of the day – first and foremost. Hard to parent these days indeed – striving for a better reality but still parenting to know how to navigate this one. Ultimately the goal is a child who knows herself – can speak her mind – has respect for herself and others. Some days I think Yeah, I’m doing good by her – other days – like today – I think gawd help me – I’m failing.
I have moments where I feel I’m ok – I’m enough – I got this. Then days like today wax in and I feel I will never be good enough. Financially abundant enough. Young enough. Firm enough. Soft enough. Energetic enough. Competent enough (some days I have no clue what I’m doing). Yes, sometimes those boundaries are solid and firm – sometimes they are squishy and pliable especially when this woman is just plum f’ing exhausted.
Yesterday was far better here in my experience. The one big difference – sleep. I had amazing sleep 2 nights before. Last night? Back at it with the sleep intention seeking – leaving me feeling in some moments desperate and pleading and instead of intending the sleep – BEGGING for it.
Fuch.
I want to please people. Probably too much. But sometimes I also want to punch their lights out, spit on the ground and walk away.
Discovering myself again – and anew – is not always a pretty process.
So I saw this tweet below tonight – and as a mama – I appreciated it. Reminded me again what my real role is. Kids learn what they see and not just what they are told – and they learn best when the rules are solid. Cross the line? Well there’s a consequence for those times when it’s crossed.
Good Story….
This morning a few people saw my daughter walking to school & me following behind her. Some asked me why I did that & others gave me a stank stare.
I’m very well aware she’s only 10. And she walked Because I told her to.
Because she forgot how to treat adults, So I… pic.twitter.com/3YzkhPGGXN— Gr8fulNurse (@Gr8fulSusan) July 4, 2023
My girl has a phone – but no phone plan. My thought – she wants a plan – she can pay for it. Yes the last 3 years have been very difficult for her – I get that. But I’m still raising a child into adulthood here and sometimes you just gots to know when to let that past nonsense go and move on. Stop repeating the story. It happened. Focus on the NOW – and find some reason to put on a smile – like she did today when she filled up her pool with water balloons or when she swung on the swings tonight at the park. I reflected – watched her – smile on my face – and paused to take in the moment. If she’s still able to create her own joy – even if it ain’t perfect – I must be doing something right.
Always room for expansion.
Love,
V.
******
Not much to share………..or shall I say very little is impressing me atm….These first two describe my experience perfectly……..
Can anyone else sleep? For the past few weeks it’s been getting worse and worse. I literally feel like a cat. Just napping here and there. Not sure it’s worse but it is different for sure.
— StormyJ (@AbbieJo73402672) July 4, 2023
Bad mood day. I don’t know why but I’ve been angry all day long and I just can’t change my mood. Nothing seems to work right now.
— WatchingTheSkies08 (@WSkies08) July 4, 2023
I'll just drop this right here and let it resonate with all you Patriots!
President Trump's truth, "TRUTH IS HOT!!!", has a timestamp of 12:01 EST
Q 1201
TRUMP card coming.
QBQQQQQQQQQQQM!!! 💥💥💥
Happy 4th of July Patriots, ENJOY THE SHOW! pic.twitter.com/OfFn2D6XnP
— 🇺🇸ULTRA-MAGA🇺🇸Dean Erickson 7th time B4CK! (@7thDean) July 3, 2023
Silver’s going to be the hot metal…………”they” been removing it from the coins for awhile now…………
— Luciana Nina Leone (@nina_leone11) July 3, 2023
Don’t know what to think about this other than the obvious creepy AF – and wouldn’t surprise me……….
— Shannon Crawford (@shae33172) July 3, 2023
I’ll take the exit sign for $1,000, Alex………
4 Dan’s
Time to exit the matrix?
Or as someone on FB said
1 for the money
2 for the show
3 to get ready
4th Let’s Go! 🇺🇸🇺🇸 pic.twitter.com/49haWdBPkr— Kungfu Kelly (@Kelfalala) July 3, 2023
Uh huh………..
🤣what ? Is that crack? Who found the crack and called hazmat? What a day🤦 https://t.co/5q7NPsLWLW
— Gia Marinetti (@gia_gigimarin) July 3, 2023
— Luciana Nina Leone (@nina_leone11) July 3, 2023
Snopes…….🙄……readers “insights” (i.e. normies trying to sound like they’ve done their research)…… 😂😜
THE GATEWAY TO ANTARCTICA This theory is based on the concept that the Earth may in fact be much larger than we have been told, and there is a way into the unknown through the so-called "Summer Gate. According to this theory, the outer worlds are hidden from us, while we are… pic.twitter.com/1YAUlqoI4n
— @AndTartary and antiquity (@andtartary2) July 4, 2023
What the fuck are they doing in Antarctica? pic.twitter.com/n5ASHXGha1
— illuminatibot (@iluminatibot) June 26, 2023
Hey hey hey now………..lookie here: