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3.15.23 ~ Update on “The Files”….War Drums Beating….Trump Travel Ban Coming? Some Reflecting……..Healing

 

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Today I reminded myself again that this movie isn’t for us, so I am watching other matrix movies now and then to pass the time when I need to detach from it all.  Babe is up next.  Innocent enough.  And I love the duck.  😄

I received something in my email this morning that immediately aligned with my Truth – the difference between being an empath and being hypervigilant.  There are so many buzz words that continue to spin around out there – and the term “empath” is one.  I’ve seen people claim it as though they are someone special – as in really special.  What if that strong ability is really just the brain being on overdrive – that hypervigilant state – where the amygdala is scanning the environment for danger.  And what if being empathic is really just a human ability to hold space for another person in the way he/she needs – without losing yourself in those moments?  That and being – FEELING – safe are imperative.  The body will tell us.  Those little signals such as feeling heat or cold, tension, tingling, pains here and there.  Go within, sit with it without judgment.  Be curious.  And ask, “what do you need?”  It’s literally like treating ourselves the same we would treat a baby in distress.  It’s still a process for me – a new way of Being – to take time to be in my body and out of my cognitive space.  This matrix absolutely does not support that practice so it’s something most of us have to relearn in adulthood (as I feel we come here naturally with that ability but are often dismissed as children when we say we are afraid or don’t feel well).

Anyway, things to consider.  I share that at the bottom of today’s finds.

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It’s still more of the same – it’s coming.  Just no WHEN.  More clown show movie scenes.  WE HAVE IT ALL = WE HAVE IT ALL.  Those files are available.  Apparently, we just have to see who did the withholding of them.  🙄 Her response is not going to soothe anyone’s frustration.  One can only “cry wolf” so many times before people just stop paying attention.

AG Pam Bondi Provides Update on Epstein Files, January 6, JFK, and MLK Assassination Documents | The Gateway Pundit | by Jim Hᴏft

We’ve now found out, of course, that they were in New York. We’ve received a truckload of documents and evidence, and Kash is going to give me a deadline on when he can go through that to protect, of course, the victims of sex trafficking who are wrapped into this. He’s going to give me a deadline on when he can get this, and we will get out as much as we can, as fast as we can, to the American people because they deserve to know.

Same with January 6th. We’re all working on JFK right now. We will be working on Martin Luther King. All of these things that the President promised, we will be doing. They can try to hide documents from us, but they can’t.

It might take a little longer, but we will find them, and we will release them to the American people because it’s about transparency.

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Trump Orders “Decisive and Powerful” US Military Attacks on Houthis; Dozens of Targets Reported Hit in Yemen | The Gateway Pundit | by Kristinn Taylor

How Barack Obama Built An Omnipotent Thought-Control Machine… And How It Was Destroyed | ZeroHedge

Trump Revokes Security Clearance for Paul Weiss Law Firm | The Gateway Pundit | by Jim Hᴏft

Top US, Russian diplomats discuss next steps on Ukraine – Insider Paper

100,000 Protest in Belgrade, Serbia Demanding Democratic Leadership Step Down – Pro-EU Activists Caught on Video Plotting Violence before Rally – Government Fires Stun Grenades at Crowd | The Gateway Pundit | by Jim Hoft

 

Trump drafts three-tier U.S. travel ban which now targets 43 countries | The Independent

The “red” list includes 11 countries whose citizens would be entirely forbidden from entering the United States: Afghanistan, Bhutan, Cuba, Iran, Libya, North Korea, Somalia, Sudan, Syria, Venezuela and Yemen.

Ten countries whose citizens will be limited from entering but not entirely banned, meaning they are required to have specific visas, were on the “orange” list. People of Belarus, Eritrea, Haiti, Laos, Myanmar, Pakistan, Russia, Sierra Leone, South Sudan and Turkmenistan will have to sit for in-person interviews to obtain a visa, the outlet reported.

The “yellow” list contains 22 countries, mostly African nations, that the Trump administration is giving 60 days to address its concerns over alleged “deficiencies.” If these nations don’t comply, they risk being placed on the red or orange lists, the Times reported.

 

 

No.  I have felt they are a (good) timeline insert – something familiar and safe about them……for me:

 

I found this – interesting….

This is good stuff:

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The great divide, the split, the soul-ar flash, ascension or descension…it is happening!
“✓ What Happened – Physicists at the University of Surrey have discovered theoretical evidence suggesting that time may not always flow in a single direction. Their research indicates that in specific quantum systems, two opposing arrows of time can simultaneously exist – one moving forward and another flowing backward.
This challenges our classical understanding that time progresses uniformly from past to future. At the quantum level, where particles already exhibit strange and unpredictable behaviors, the researchers identified conditions where quantum processes could evolve both forward and backward in time simultaneously.
This work builds upon previous theoretical models suggesting time’s directionality in quantum mechanics, but it also represents a significant advancement in our understanding of temporal dynamics at the microscopic scale. The next step of course is further experimental verification.
💡 Why It’s Important – Time’s singular direction has been considered a universal constant – the backdrop against which all physical processes unfold. If quantum systems can indeed experience bidirectional time flow, it challenges core assumptions about causality and the nature of reality itself. It also feeds into the theoretics behind time travel – especially is this can be replicated experimentally.
∞ The Takeaway – Our perception of time as a one-way street may simply be a macroscopic approximation of a much more complex underlying reality where temporal directionality is fluid rather than fixed.
This research invites us to question whether time itself is an intrinsic property of the universe or merely an emergent phenomenon arising from more fundamental processes. If quantum systems can experience bidirectional time, perhaps our experience of time’s arrow is not an absolute law but rather a special case that dominates at human scales.
In the end, expand the mind, be curious, be wonderous, because our world is a fascinating place.”

I listen to a lovely self-guided meditation each night before going to sleep that guides the body and mind to heal itself.  I usually fall asleep listening – but I figure much healing comes from the subconscious.

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These are some of the most important words we can tell ourselves – imho – and feeeeeeeeeeeels.  I would also say no breadcrumbs – as in you don’t receive their leftovers (attention, time, etc.).  We’re all busy – and some of that is unnecessary busy, isn’t it?  Distractions to avoid doing what is BEST for us.  I’m re-examining my own priorities as I tend to do what I think I should do first – i.e. chores, etc.  Switching that to “do what feels best first – chores can always get done later” which completely challenges the dynamics of my upbringing and certain relationships.  Of course, I also want a life of ease – release all that was hidden that have kept us in these monkey cages and hamster wheels tired and stressed.  Seriously over that sheot.

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From the Newsletter “Professional Human”:

Safety, Survival, and the Hyperattuned Brain
From a psychological perspective, a healthy brain needs safety above all.
Safety—both physical and emotional—forms the foundation of a well-regulated nervous system. When a child grows up in a stable environment, they have the proper security to explore both novelty and familiarity within the context set by their caregivers.
This balance (novelty and familiarity) is what allows for clear thinking, emotional resilience, and sound decision-making.
Conversely, when emotional or physical safety is lacking, chronic stress takes over, disrupting brain function and making impulsivity, anxiety, and poor decision-making the norm rather than the exception. The disruption is not limited to behavior and emotions—it extends deep into the very structure of the brain.
Chronic stress and trauma can rewire the brain in ways similar to physical brain injuries.
Neuroimaging reveals that the networks affected in Traumatic Brain Injuries (or TBIs) in veterans and patients in intensive care units are remarkably similar to those impacted by long-term emotional trauma. Even after the physical injuries have healed, the neural networks involved in emotional regulation and autonomic fear responses continue to show similar patterns in both TBI patients and those with emotional trauma.

Hyperattunement and Hypervigilance
Hyperattunement is a learned behavior.
When a child grows up in an unstable, unpredictable, or emotionally volatile environment, they develop an excessive focus on others as a defense mechanism. They read subtle shifts in tone, expression, and body language—constantly monitoring those around them to maintain secure attachment.
Over time, this hyperattunement becomes more than just a habit—it becomes a way of life. As the nervous system adapts to unpredictability, attunement gradually shifts into vigilance, and eventually, hypervigilance.
With hypervigilance, the amygdala—your brain’s built-in alarm system—is on high alert. A simple conversation can feel like walking on a tightrope and a subtle shift in someone’s tone can send your body into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn before you even understand what happened.
Ever walked into a room and immediately felt tension in the air, even before anyone says anything? Maybe you notice subtle shifts in breathing, micro-expressions, or changes in someone’s posture.
This is hyperattunement in action, a deeply ingrained survival mechanism.

Hyperattunement vs. True Empathy
Many people who developed hyperattunement as children are often labeled as “empaths” in adulthood, but this is a misconception.
The difference is crucial—while hyperattunement can feel emotionally rewarding, it’s not true empathy. True empathy is rooted in differentiation, the ability to maintain a clear sense of self while still being attuned to the emotions of others.
This lack of differentiation can often be felt in our relationships, where we become so absorbed in others’ emotional states that we lose sight of our own.
Dr. Daniel Siegel, a leading expert in interpersonal neurobiology, explains: “If you are excessively focused on others’ emotions, you may lose touch with your own internal world, leading to anxiety, confusion, and emotional exhaustion.”
The cost of hyperattunement—without the grounding power of differentiation—is a feeling of being disconnected from your true self.
It manifests in distinct and harmful relationship patterns:
  • People-pleasing: You anticipate others’ needs before your own, often sacrificing your own desires to avoid conflict or gain approval.
  • Codependency: Your sense of worth becomes entwined with caring for others, leading you to feel responsible for their emotions, often at the expense of your own well-being.
  • Boundary issues: You struggle to distinguish where your emotional landscape ends and someone else’s begins, resulting in blurred lines that create confusion and resentment.
  • Emotional burnout: You carry the weight of others’ emotional states, feeling as though their moods, happiness, or pain are your responsibility, leading to exhaustion and frustration.
  • Decision paralysis: You overthink choices based on how others might respond, fearing rejection or disapproval if you make the “wrong” choice.
These patterns tend to reinforce the original wound, perpetuating cycles that are difficult to break without self-awareness and intentional change.
For example, you might feel validated when others are pleased with your efforts (people-pleasing), but this only deepens the emptiness when the approval fades. The emotional exhaustion from constantly attending to others can lead to burnout, leaving you incapable of tending to your own needs.
Often, these patterns run on autopilot—we don’t even realize we’re trapped in them until we step back and recognize the toll they’ve taken on our relationships and sense of self.

Sympathetic Overload: When Your Mind and Body Won’t Shut Off
Your sympathetic nervous system is designed for short bursts of activation—like running from danger. But with hypervigilance and hyperattunement, it stays stuck in overdrive, constantly flooding your body with cortisol and adrenaline.
This prolonged activation leads to sympathetic overload, where the body struggles to return to a state of rest.
As the body becomes trapped in a cycle of stress and tension, this process reveals a deeper connection between the mind and the body.
The unprocessed fears and emotions that the brain can’t address end up manifesting in the body, making these tensions not just a physical inconvenience, but a powerful signal of emotional distress.

Mind Into Matter: How Trauma Becomes Physical Symptoms
In mental health spaces, it’s very common for patients to somaticize their challenges.
Somaticization means feeling mental struggles as physical sensations—it’s when psychological distress manifests in the body because the mind’s unprocessed emotions need a way to express themselves.
On the low end of the spectrum, an anxious person might notice their hands tighten, shake, or constrict. On the high end, an individual with a deep subconscious fear of death (often referred to in evolutionary psychology as the survival instinct) might constantly feel diseased or unwell, even without physical illness.
On a much deeper level, the body might be free of disease, yet due to the chronic stress of somaticization, it may eventually adopt various physical challenges.
  • Exhaustion – your body never fully relaxes
  • Sleep problems – your brain won’t stop scanning
  • Chronic tension – especially in the shoulders, jaw, and neck
  • Compromised immune function – leading to increased inflammation
  • Digestive issues – because your gut takes a backseat in survival mode
I want to clarify that somaticization is not inherently negative.
In fact, it serves a purpose. It can pull us deeper into ourselves, helping to bypass the primitive mental defenses that shield us from truly experiencing life. Dissociation and somaticization are two ends of the same spectrum—while dissociation involves disconnection from the body, somaticization involves a heightened connection to physical sensations as a way of coping with emotional distress.

Reclaiming Safety: The Path to Health
The path to healing begins with awareness.
Recognizing hyperattunement and hypervigilance as learned adaptations, rather than inherent personality traits, creates space for change. These patterns were once necessary for survival, but your nervous system can learn new ways of responding.
Practical steps to reclaim safety include:
  • Creating “safety anchors” through consistent routines and environments that signal to your nervous system that you are truly safe
  • Developing interoception by learning to identify and name your own needs and emotions before attending to othersf
  • Working with trauma-informed therapists who understand nervous system regulation and can guide you through the process
  • Practicing small boundaries in low-risk relationships to build confidence and gradually expand your comfort zone
Remember that healing isn’t linear—some days will feel like progress, others like regression. This is normal and part of the process.

Balancing Sensing with Structure
To create lasting change, we need to balance the formless (feelings, sensations, and experiences) with form (ritual, structure). This creates the necessary boundaries for neurological rewiring.
This means integrating both top-down and bottom-up approaches:
Top-down approaches work from the mind to the body:
  • Applied behavioral psychology to identify and change thought patterns
  • Cognitive restructuring to challenge hypervigilant interpretations
  • Mindfulness meditation to observe thoughts without attachment
  • Claiming your internal authority: “NOW I AM THE VOICE” — actively choosing to listen to your own wisdom rather than responding to perceived external demands
Bottom-up approaches work from the body to the mind:
  • Somatic experiencing to release trapped stress from the body
  • Breathwork to directly calm the sympathetic nervous system
  • Movement therapies that help process emotions stored in muscle memory
  • Sensory grounding techniques to bring you back to the present moment
True healing involves recalibrating the nervous system to recognize genuine safety, allowing hypervigilance to soften into appropriate awareness.
The goal isn’t to lose empathy, but to develop it authentically—from a place of choice rather than survival. With persistence and support, the body can remember what it’s like to feel truly safe.

From Survival to Connection: Rediscovering True Attunement
We live in a relational world where reciprocity is a rule in nature.
In order to step into our true human state—one that is constantly connecting, growing, evolving, and creating—we need to be able to connect deeply to another person.
True relationship, becomes possible only when we first attune to ourselves. From this foundation of safety, we can engage with others not from hypervigilance or hyperattunment, but from genuine presence.
This inner attunement creates a foundation for deeper healing. Tthe most profound healing happens when we develop a new relationship with our own bodies. By returning to the body—the very place where our relational wounds are stored—we can create a new template for connection.
The body knows what safety feels like, even if the mind has forgotten. By listening to our bodies with compassion rather than hypervigilance, we begin to heal the very pathways that were once overloaded by stress and fear.
In a world racing toward technological advances and artificial intelligence, our most important evolution remains the one happening within:
The journey from survival response to conscious choice, from hyperattunement to true connection.
With love and healing,
Brian Maierhofer (Professional Human)

 

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The Vision Alignment Project ~ A Vision for Family Love and Inter-generational Harmony

 

i love this one and continue to hold the intention i can create this for myself and my family…

A Vision for Family Love and Inter-generational Harmony

Today’s Vision was sent in by Marianne Vigeland and we think it is one of our best! Indeed, when this Vision comes to pass, this world will be a much better place. Thank you, Marianne! She says:

We see a world where the natural love of parents for children and children for parents has become firmly established in every home; where the media-generated expectation for conflict and division has withered away and multi-generational households nurture, respect and care for infants, young children, adolescents, young adults, adults and elders in a symbiotic net of affection, where brothers and sisters support and counsel one another.

We see a world where young couples develop their relationships in extended families, offering sweethearts space, shelter and wise advice, the opportunity to learn habits of mutuality and generosity, preparing them to become good parents in their turn. We see a world where every child has a constellation of loving adults ready to feed, clothe, educate, advise and play with the precious young, where the young people treasure and respect the elderly for their work and wisdom. A world where all people enjoy family love and everyone has an extended family of several generations, ready to guide, help and love.

 
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Year End Wisdom

 

editor victoria’s comment ~ sister linea is at it again – sharing another beautiful message on Compassion.  Love.  Generosity.  Acceptance.  i am reminded of an experience i had over 10 years ago.  i had already seen through a lot of the “you and you alone create your own reality here” nonsense and was in the middle of an RET session.  the practitioner was saying how the children of iraq (at the time) had chosen the experience to witness death and war.  i asked her if she would hold the same view if this were happening to her child here.  she tried to dismiss that w/some new age bullshit.  i told her she was nuts and never returned.  

let this be a good message to walk out of 2019 and into 2020 – the year of Plenty.  the year of Perfect Vision.  the year of Liberation and Freedom.  

Lift up others (self included).  Assist.  and if unable simply hold space.  

and when the urge to offer up unasked for advice/telling them what you think they should do arises, give the gift of Silence.  lovingly STFU.  17 Best images about My Happy Faces~Emoji's! on Pinterest ...

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You Don’t Need A Man, You Need a Goddamn Warrior.

 

thanks to linea for posting this one on f/b.  beautiful.  intense.  utterly real.  often what is referred to as drama is really just the intensity and realness of Authentic Emotion.  and Awakening.  and existing in an experience that is so f’d up and so out of alignment – so in denial of Truth and Freedom and Purity and Love – is difficult for some, and almost impossible for others.  having that other person who “gets it” AND you without trying to change you – is a real gift.

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To my sweet wild woman, I know why it hasn’t worked out with anyone else—you don’t need a man, but a goddamn warrior.

You are the strength of Turkish coffee at sunrise darlin’ and don’t try to pretend that you’re not.

You are one of the wild ones, and no matter how you tried to hide that fact, you can’t be anything other than what you are—and that’s okay. You are just as you are supposed to be, magnificently wild in all of your chaotic beauty.

I know you’ve had your heart broken and I know that you don’t understand why it always seems to never work out, but I’ve finally figured it out:

You don’t need a man, you need a goddamn warrior.

It doesn’t matter if this warrior drives a Jeep or a shiny sports car, and it won’t matter if he wears silk or cotton—it will not even matter if he works in a high-rise, or on the night shift.

What is going to matter is that when it comes to taking bets on your heart, he is going to be high stakes—all the way.

This warrior of yours will crave your strength, and your intensity. He’s going to look at you and not see something to tame, but something to just fuckin’ admire. This warrior of yours won’t be someone that you can manipulate or play with as you have in the past, so honey, don’t even try—and trust me, you’re going to love him even more because of it.

Because you aren’t just a woman, you’re a goddamn goddess.

Your fierceness is going to bring him to his knees every single time he looks into your gorgeous eyes, but the difference is, unlike the others, he isn’t going to be scared off. No, this time, you will have finally met your match—because a simple man for you just won’t do.

You need someone to match the fire in your eyes with his own. Not only that, my little wild thing, but this warrior of yours is going to want to encourage the flames instead of trying to douse them with his own insecurities.

Because for you, a warrior is the only man who will ever live in the wild with you.

He may not have to slay any dragons to earn your love, but he would still walk through fire if it meant seeing that amazing smile that you hold in reserve for only him.

This is the thing, free spirit, this warrior you seek….he’s seeking you too.

For he’s had failed relationships that have left him wondering if maybe he was meant to be alone for the rest of his journey—and you’re going to change all of that for him. You both have been travelling along on your separate journeys and have been doing an okay job at it, but that about to change too.

Because baby, when you and this warrior of yours meet and collide—it’s going to be a love set on fire.

Don’t try to run this time—I know your heart has been broken before, and that you’re not used to things working out, but this time it’s different. Give yourself time to see that.

This warrior of yours needs to see that it’s possible for someone to see all of his wild, and still be there when he craves his freedom and ventures off into this world for a bit. You won’t always need to follow him, just as he won’t always follow you. Let yourself stay wild, even when all you want to do is curl up in that spot along his side and forget the rest of the world exists.

Let yourself still wander naked under the full moon, and drink moonshine with the stars. Let yourself feel the pull of the wind on your heart, and the sun toward a new journey. Because this warrior is going to love you because of your wild—and he’ll want you to keep it.

You’ll be in this together now, this amazing, crazy, chaotic, wonderfully heartbreaking life—because it takes a warrior to love a goddess. And it takes a goddess to show a warrior what real love is.

So pack up your insecurities and your ideas about picket fences, because that was never you anyway. You were born knowing that you were destined for more, and now is the time for you to see what all those dreams look like.

There is no stopping a love like this, so promise me you’ll hold out just a little bit longer.

Have a little bit of hope, and always give love just one more try, because I promise you my sweet wild woman—the love that you seek is seeking you as well.

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Dad, We Need To Talk

 

a beautiful piece for anyone who is a parent – or who has a niece or nephew, etc. with whom they are close to….we talk with our girl daily – and every night she and i talk about the day……as a result we are VERY close and have a very open, honest relationship….

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Stay in the Game

This is going to be an uncharacteristic departure for me. This story is deeply personal, for our family, and for our oldest son in particular. But it is a story he’s letting me tell, because it is a story he wants people to hear.

My son Max was born in Detroit in 1997, he spent the next summer in Hong Kong when I was interning at Fidelity Investments, and moved to London before he was two when I accepted an offer to work for Fido there full-time.

He was an amazing child, and became an amazing young man. But he had his demons. And just before he turned 16 years old, those demons arrived with a vengeance. I will spare you the details, but for the next three years, he went through a personal hell. Imagine all the things you don’t want to have happen to your teenager. They happened to him. For three years my wife and I would wait on our front stoop until 5:00 am, in the shadow of the Albert Bridge, hoping that he would come home. On those nights that he didn’t, we would call the hospitals, and call the police. And sometimes the police would call us.

We tried everything that parents try, and we were very lucky that we could afford to try just about everything. And we did. But none of it helped. The change in schools didn’t help. The psychologists didn’t help. The wilderness therapy didn’t help. Our closest friends and extended family all waded in too, but nothing helped.

Max didn’t want to be here. He didn’t feel a sense of belonging anywhere. His self-esteem was non-existent. The anxiety was paralyzing. He often contemplated ending it all, and only the thoughts of the impact on his three younger siblings prevented him from doing so.

It was a living hell for Max. And honestly it was a living hell for us too. There was nothing we could do about it. The most difficult thing for my wife and I to accept was that only Max could make the choices. It wasn’t up to us. We couldn’t save him. It was up to him if he was going to live, or going to die. As one of my best friends told me at the time, only Max could choose to live.

Just over two years ago, he realized that the scene in London was poisonous for him, and he asked if he could head out. He’d asked before, and we’d let him go to far-flung destinations, but the grass wasn’t greener in any of them. And we didn’t honestly expect anything to come of it this time, but told him that we’d pay for the flight, because he really did need to get out of London, and there was almost no way things could get worse.

He chose a destination a lot of rudderless kids like to visit. It might as well have been Goa, Tulum, Koh Tao or Maui, but he chose Costa Rica. A friend of his, a good guy, was backpacking there, and invited him to come to the hostel. I told Max we would pay for the flight, and the first week, but if he wanted to stay longer, he had to get a job and support himself. We honestly didn’t know what to expect, but it felt like a last shot for him.

He loved the first week there, and indeed got a job working at one of the hostels (in exchange for room and board). But after the honeymoon was over (and eventually, the honeymoon is always over), reality set in. His anxiety set in, and his depression set in. At the darkest point, he almost called it. And there was nothing we could do about it. Even if we weren’t 5,000 miles away there was nothing we could do about it.

But, for some reason, he decided not to. Max decided to stay in the game.

We later learned the reason. He’d found an eight-week old puppy roaming the streets of Santa Teresa. The dog had been abused, was eating scraps from trash heaps, and was terrified of people. But Max and the dog, which he named “Chica”, connected with each other. Max and Chica became inseparable.

Max, who by then was 19 years old, started to realize he had something to offer. Chica needed help, and Max was there to provide it. Max started doing adult things, like earning and saving money so that he could take Chica to the vet for check-ups and vaccinations. And Chica started getting healthy. And Max started getting healthy. I could hear it in his voice when he would call. There was an excitement about life and the future that I hadn’t heard since he was 14 years old. He was starting to get his groove back.

On one of those phone calls he said to me “Dad, I think I’m ready to leave Costa Rica.” Then he continued “and while I miss you guys, I don’t think I should come back to London”. “I want to go somewhere where I won’t be tempted by my old habits, but where I can feel at home, and restart everything,” he said. “Somewhere like Georgia or Indiana.” 

He said “Georgia or Indiana” because he was vaguely familiar with both. I grew up in Indiana, and then moved to Atlanta, where I lived for several years, and ultimately met my wife, Max’s mom. I told him that either Georgia or Indiana would be a wonderful idea, and that there were great people in both places. I mentioned that I would be comfortable knowing that my old buddies in the ATL would be around just in case he needed a backstop; and that back in Indiana, he’d of course have his grandparents and uncle there for support as well.

So he chose Indianapolis. My wife and the other kids flew over to help get him settled into a new apartment downtown, and they got to meet Chica. And before we knew it, Max was working a full-time job, and not doing any of the bad stuff he used to do. He still had his demons (these kids always have them – heck we all have ‘em – they just learn to manage them), and things were by no means perfect yet. But he could work through the anxiety, and work through the depression, because he had responsibilities now. He had Chica.

On his own in Costa Rica, Max had figured out how to get Chica into the US, and convinced someone at American Airlines to let her fly on his lap, because they wouldn’t let dogs fly in the hold due to the heat. Thereafter, he and Chica settled into their little apartment downtown near the White River canal, and each of them began their new life, together. Max had saved Chica. And Chica had saved Max.

One afternoon three months later, when Max was walking Chica, she saw something she hadn’t seen in Costa Rica. It was a squirrel, and before Max could stop her, Chica chased that squirrel straight out onto Indiana Avenue. Right in front of a speeding car.

The car ran over Chica. My son screamed. In that brief moment everything that Max had worked for, everything he had overcome, everything that he was living for, was gone.

But the blow didn’t kill the dog. The driver that hit her sped off and left Chica half-dead and crying in the road. But the next car did stop. It was a young black kid. A young black kid who saw a young white kid on his knees in the middle of downtown Indianapolis. His name was Kenny. He opened his door, got out of his car, walked up to my son, and said “hey, I got you”. He then walked Max out to the middle of Indiana Avenue and they picked up a bloody Chica and loaded her into Kenny’s car.

Turns out that Kenny had just moved to Indiana, and had grown up down in Georgia. He had been traveling around a bit, and had recently lost his job up north. He subsequently found an offer for a temporary position down in Indianapolis, and had just started work there. He was apprenticing at his new shop, and was hoping to be made a permanent employee. Kenny was just 21.

But none of that mattered to Kenny at that moment. What mattered to Kenny was Chica and my son Max. So Kenny looked up a vet clinic on his phone, and took Max and Chica there. The vet said that without surgery, Chica would die, but the vet wasn’t a surgeon, and they needed to go somewhere else.

Luckily Kenny had stayed. Kenny was there by Max’s side, like a big brother, and this wonderful young man then took Max and Chica to another vet, one that could do the surgery.

The vet did the surgery. It worked. Chica lived. Her pelvis was broken, but over the next six months Max nursed her back to health. Without Kenny, none of this would have happened.

Kenny even stayed in touch with Max afterward. He would text and see how Chica was doing, and how Max was doing. This last Thanksgiving, about one year since the incident, Kenny even got some tickets to go see the Colts play, and asked Max if he would like to come, and then took him out to dinner afterward.

Max is doing great now. He’s been working full-time, got super healthy, started running marathons, and is now on the good path. These were his choices, they had to be, and he did it. But it almost didn’t turn out this way. Kenny made sure he stayed on that path.

This guy Kenny, I want to reach out and give him the biggest hug he ever got. I want to tell him that he is special. I want to thank him for saving Chica’s life. I want to thank him for saving my son’s.

Oh, and as a follow-up. We got some news about Kenny this past week. It’s some really good news.

Kenny not only got that job offer, he just got a nice long contract along with it. Kenny Moore, from Valdosta, Georgia, just signed a four-year contract with the Indianapolis Colts to be the highest paid slot cornerback in the NFL, in a deal that is going to pay him at least $30 million over the next four years.

Good things happen to good people.

Kenny stayed in the game too.

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The event 2019. Update, part 2.

 

editor victoria’s comment ~ i was once into the twin flame concept.  it began in 1997/98.  i was going through a divorce and simply knew there was someone else searching for me.  as a result of the twin flame narrative, i fell for a lot of illusion and exaggeration.  i have since come to feel that the biggest longing i have really had is for the rest of Me at Home – as well as family i have been apart from.  i like what lisa harrison says about power couples – how the matrix is programmed to keep such people apart of when they do unite, the program throws stressors the couple’s way – health issues, financial struggle/job loss, etc.  often they have been targeted throughout their life and carry a lot of trauma, illness, pain, etc.  when they unite that crap comes to the surface and unless this is SEEN, the two can end up parting.  i could write a book about the last 20 years with my mate.  i see him as my partner here in this realm – in as much as it has been painful and HUGELY challenging at times as i mentioned previously.  so lately i have been so focused on remembering on how we do it at Home.  relationships.  parenting.  and it is different – easier and we have so much more support.  

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Projection: What it is and how to manage it

editor’s note:  written by a friend of mine on facebook and fellow truther. happy to have a #MAGA/event truther in the field of psychology!  a very insightful, helpful piece.

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Posted on October 10, 2018 by Dr. Bloom

Projection is a psychological tool we use to manage our own discomfort. In short, we subconsciously say, “I don’t want to admit that I feel this way so now I’m going to say that you’re the source.”

How many times have we been blamed for something we didn’t do? Or others’ are upset about something but now taking it out on you? Or we can tell others have preconceived notions about us and start acting as if these are already true about us, even though they’re not? We don’t have to look too far to see that this goes on in politics as well – blaming the other side of the aisle for something that party (or person) is guilty of.

So on a day to day basis, how do we best manage these tough scenarios?

1) Mine or yours? Check in with ourselves first before jumping into a defensive stance. When that person starts pouncing on us and we feel either confused or can clearly tell this isn’t about us, stop to ask ourselves this question, “Is this mine or theirs”? It doesn’t mean you tell them they’re projecting, but a self-check is vital here.

2) From here, remember the three aspects of communication: objective, relationship, and self respect.

Objective. Do your best to focus the conversation on the objective, or what you wish to attain from the conversation. If you can tell the other is starting to stray off topic to circling back and wanting to play the blame game, do your best to stay focused on what you want out of the conversation. So, for example, if your partner says, “You’re not going to listen to me anyway, so it doesn’t matter”, answer by saying, “I’m interested in what you have to say so we can resolve this. I’m here for you and when you’re ready to chat about this let me know.” You’re staying focused on the topic and not getting hooked into a debate.

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Lisa Harrison ~ Deconstructing The Construct Ep 49

 

editor’s note:  interesting info on the “coding” of this matrix – binary – 0’s and 1’s – only written w/E – an error code – that kept us trapped.  the E’s are being deleted – each piece of code.  she is saying it’s showing up in relationships – becoming much more authentic – heart-centered – in fact if not heart-centered, either being healed or severed.  i have noticed that with my mate and i, with any issues we have had. there is a new level of respect – very honest conversing – and indeed standing solid in truth and speaking it. it’s been a shift i have felt within – gradual and subtle but noticeable – at least for me.  

physical symptoms – the sleeping issue.  i can go pretty well most days but wow – when i need to sleep at times it is sudden and instant.  i am not having the other-worldly experience of suddenly being in another realm or seeing being’s that don’t appear human – or hearing being’s or noises in other realms.  instant manifestation?  not having that.  in fact i feel the opposite – to the point where as i have stated lately – i feel absolutely stuck. 

very interesting what came up in recent weeks w/her group – is a cleaning up of the guru’s – new age, shaman’s, voo doo/magic types.  in the last couple of weeks or so i have felt this sudden desire to see such energy gone and have been speaking about this elsewhere.  feeling myself release that energy w/in my own being too.  not only did i have the strong desire to begin speaking about this w/others, but i also noticed this sudden increase in such programming – new age thoughts, shamanic tools being used, etc – while also seeing some saying “OMG my shaman or yogi teacher has suddenly left me”.  it wasn’t a big huge experience for me but it was enough of one for me to notice and so i just knew – ok this programming is being challenged.  now i know why – the realms were getting cleared.  

she also has the imminent feeling – and that is a growing “feel” i am seeing even among some who have had projected dates of years in the future – as she has observed.  the event is the final wave that breaks the code – releases us from it.  

ok i continue to listen and am finding myself also resonating w/her perspective on this realm being a “dream within a dream within a dream” – which is why the plug can’t just be pulled.  i have really been going within on this concept lately – just on my own – in my own time/space – and have, for some time now, known this can’t just be a giant crash.  can’t just, as she said, pull the plug, for how deeeeeep within this program we have been – how deeply PROGRAMMED we have been.  each little layer getting removed – and wow – i am feeling there has been a LOT of layers in this construct – energetic.  i have actually felt those words – a dream within a dream within a dream – and i can see within my own life – my own awakening – which truly began in my mid 20’s.  i see how i pulled away from religion – got out of that program – only to get into the eastern religions – another program but still perhaps the next layer up – or down (who knows how this is all formatted)……then i got into the new age and was with that for years….then i decided to explore wiccan philosophy/practices…..eventually i came to the feeeeling of “love, freedom, source” – that’s all i needed for i stopped going outside for answers and found that within.  so many layers to remove – perhaps the idea of finding truth is really just about removing the layers and what we find IS simple – love.  freedom.  

this morning…..i had a visual this morning of one of those caps people wear when they’re undergoing an EEG.  now whether this is LITERALLY our experience or a metaphor for our experience – or a bit of both – i cannot say for sure.  but i did feel and see this morning how this construct has sent out energetic signals to each one of us that is connected to our minds.  makes sense doesn’t it?  (i am feeling and seeing more and more how this truly is a simulation – a computer-like construct – ALL OF IT – including us).  and my FEEEEEL was that wow ok if i can not only feel that but see it – that means we are about ready to get pulled out and fully awakened.  it means it IS getting deconstructed.  how it ends?  i don’t know – but i do feeeeel the closer we become the more i – we – will be able to see the answer to that – at least as clear of an answer as i/we can receive/feel.  

she also mentions the increasing experience of the sensation of falling.  she said backwards – for me i have had several experiences of suddenly falling forward – or down.   i had one at the stove last week.  she says perhaps practice runs?  

anyway – some interesting intel here – would have liked some more info and yet i have come to know i cannot go to ONE person for all of the answers.  i seek out there for some pieces of the puzzle and “take” what “fits” – the puzzle i am putting together for myself – which i feel is what this comes down to.  [wp-svg-icons icon=”heart-2″ wrap=”i”]

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Published on Sep 23, 2018

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Little Boy meeting his newborn brother for the first time

 

there is such a beautiful, deep connection taking place….i love this one…had to share!

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Stay Closed to Psychic Intrusion

 

Jen Ward
August 21 at 7:00 PM

Stay Closed to Psychic Intrusion

Don’t answer questions about yourself from people who don’t need to know the answer. They may be merely fishing for their own advantage in reference to you.

Don’t seek permission from people who are not in authority. It is a way of giving your power away.

Don’t ask advice from anyone who is not in a position to know the answer.

Don’t interject yourself in conversations that are not concerning you.

Don’t give advice that no one has asked for.

When you are in public places, and your mood changes suddenly, try to equivocate it with your surroundings. For instance if you are in the mall and start feeling desperate about finances, it could be you walking in to the energy of someone was there before you. Just like you can stand in someones pee in a pool, you can stand in someone’s sadness in the mall. Try to shake feelings off so as not to keep the one that’s not yours.

Understand the energy exchange behind everything that transpires. Much of language is meant to subjugate each other. Comparisons are a way to level your individuality. Saying “Don’t do that or that will happen” is a curse we put on each others. Much of people’s opinions are a curse so don ‘t open yourself up to them.

Asking someone’s opinion is many times seeking validation. know that you don’t need to be validated by anyone else.

If you accept a gift from someone, you are allowing their energy into your own field. It is best not to accept gifts from someone you don’t like.

If you have an aversion to someone, something, or some place, pay attention to it. Your innate intelligence is telling you something. If you get a bad feeling going somewhere, it may because it is not healthy for you energetically.

You know when you are not being respected. Don’t go, or be anywhere where you are not honored. Obligation is no excuse. You are too important.

Respect the rights of others. There is no quicker way for the Universe to give you lessons on your blind spots than to put you in the position of those you have judged. Pay attention to who you judge and see if you do not see the grain of similarity in your own experiences.

Refuse to take sides when two loved ones are in disagreement. When two people in your circle have an argument, you may be recruited as the moral compass. Refrain from allowing your ego to be stroked in this way.

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